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Why Self-Love Takes MORE Than Buying Yourself Flowers
Self-Love. It’s so much deeper than we’re led to believe. I see a lot of people teaching acts of self-love from an external point of view. For example, they tell you to do things like buy yourself flowers, take an aromatherapy bath, make time for meditation or prayer.
How many times have you heard yourself say, “I’m tired. But… it’s nothing a good night’s sleep can’t fix.” Or, “Ugh. I just need to give myself a few extra hours of sleep. I’m exhausted.” I know I utter these sentiments with regularity, especially now while in the midst of BIG life changes. In fact, on occasion I’ve even used my lack of sleep as a badge of honor. As if my tiredness is a reflection of how busy and successful I am.
Can I share a little secret with you? There was a time, not too long ago, when I really struggled with looking at myself in the mirror. I’m not talking about just from the neck up. I’m talking about full-body, naked, front and center.
If you’ve been experiencing emotional heaviness in the form of fear, sadness, frustration, or even anger, I want you to know you’re not alone. It’s definitely okay to feel these feelings, but I want to encourage you today to not stay with these feelings for long.
Having a long-term goal like “I want to lose 40 lbs by my birthday” is great, but at the same time, it can also feel overwhelming (as in “OMG! I have to give up my chocolate AND exercise more?) and far reaching (as in “I need this weight off like yesterday!”).
A couple of months ago, I found myself slipping back into old patterns of thinking. You see, I’ve been on the journey of healing my body image issues for a very long time. People always think that because I’m a nutritionist and a yoga teacher, I have it all together.
Did the title get you? Yay! Because this week I’m talking about a very important and common issue that women deal with when it comes to food and body. What I’m hoping is that you’ll be able to see yourself through my actions and words here, and in turn do better. Live better.
When people ask me “What do you do?” I tell them “I work with women who have sacrificed their own health for their careers, or the needs of others. I help them recommit to themselves so they can lose weight, have more energy and feel confident and sexy again.”
Anyone who knows me knows I am head over heels in love with NYC. So much so that back in 2007, I left my job in Chicago, packed up my truck and drove solo 1,000 miles across the country to live there with my then boyfriend (now husband).
The other day, I was thinking about how we’re always looking for the easiest, most convenient, fastest way of doing things. Doesn’t it seem like somewhat of an oxymoron that the “easier” our lives get, with all the advanced technology and stuff, the more complex our lives become?