Are you a good listener? Part of building healthy, supportive relationships is not only what the other person can do for you, but what you do for others, as well.
Being a good listener is part of that equation.
I have to admit, there are times when I have to really put effort into this myself. I have the tendency to drift off into “never-neverland” when someone is talking to me and they’re long-winded with their part of the conversation, especially when I can’t get a word in edgewise.
So if you’re like me, and you need to put a little more effort into your listening skills, here’s how to start:
1. Be honest with yourself and admit that you have some work to do in this area
2. When you’re in conversation with someone, free yourself from your electronic devices and be FULLY present (that includes if you’re in person or over the phone!)
3. Make it a practice to say “I understand…” or “I hear you when you say…”. This assures the person you’re in conversation with that you’re fully present
Remember, being a good listener on your part puts the energy in motion to receive that back from others as well.
Is this something you need to work on? Get started today the next time you’re in conversation with someone!