Hey there! It’s Christine Dyan, your Registered Dietitian and Body Empowerment Coach for Women over 40. Today’s video topic is all about the #1 reason why most women fail in their diets (and maybe even any other goals that they set for themselves).
The #1 reason that I find through working with my clients that they’re not really successful with achieving their diet goals, their weight loss goals, (or whatever it is in regards to their health and wellness) is because they’re so busy at putting everyone else first and not leaving enough for themselves. So, what I want to talk to you about today are 3 ways that you can start to be more successful with your weight loss goal or any other goals that you set for yourself in your life because remember that you’re not just all about your weight. Right?
The # 1 thing that you have to do to be a little more successful with any goals that you set for yourself and your life is to make a commitment to putting yourself first. Let’s breathe through that one. Make a commitment to putting yourself first. Now, if you’re not used to doing this I know that you can feel kind of icky. It can feel a little like, “oh my God”, selfish, or just not good at all. I’m here to tell you that if you are not willing to gradually move into putting yourself first, it’s going to be really, really challenging to achieve any goals that you set for yourself. It may even take a lot longer for you to achieve these goals than you anticipate or than you desire. This goal is super important and is number one on my list because I feel like if you’re not able to put yourself first, then it’s really going to be hard to achieve any goals that you set for yourself. You can start to do this gradually, especially if it feels icky and it makes you feel guilty. If you want to, just gradually move into putting yourself first by making a commitment to doing something for yourself once a day, or maybe make a commitment to yourself once a week. One commitment to putting yourself first, something that make you feel good… you can do that activity once a week. Vary those activities up. You know, you don’t want to get monotonous. Although, there are some people who thrive off of doing the same thing over and over again. Personally, monotony drives me crazy. I need to do something a little bit different every day, every week, or what have you. So, gradually move into that self-care. Gradually move into putting yourself first. Maybe reconnect with an old hobby that you kind of put down over the years of maybe raising a family or being career-goal oriented. Something that you used to love doing that you put down, you may want to reconnect with that again.
So, number one… Commit to putting yourself first.
#2 would be to set boundaries in your life. Set boundaries with how you allow others to treat you. Set boundaries with your time and things like that. That is another tough one, especially for us women, especially for us people-pleasers. We have to set boundaries, and I tell you that’s one of the very first things I had to learn how to do when I started my personal growth and development journey years and years ago. My coach at the time taught me how to set boundaries with my family members, my friends, and my co-workers. I encourage you to set boundaries with how you use your time. Set boundaries with how you allow let people treat you, how you allow people to speak to you, and things like that. It’s not going to be easy because people are going to notice a change in you. Most, if not a lot of them, will not like it. They will have to deal with it, or they will fall by the wayside. Those who do fall by the wayside were not meant to be with you in the first place. That’s just my own personal opinion.
Alright, so number two is setting boundaries.
#3 is a practical step, and it’s one that I really want you to commit to. That’s committing to getting enough sleep at night. Commit to getting at least seven to eight hours of sleep a night. I don’t care if you’ve been surviving off of four to five hours for the past twenty-five years. That’s been fine and dandy. How’s that been working for ya? Probably not so well. Studies have proven over and over again that sleep, and enough sleep, helps to improve your cognitive skills. It helps to improve your decision-making skills, and helps to improve your overall productivity. So, gradually moving into getting seven to eight hours of sleep at night might look like making a commitment to going to bed 30 minutes earlier each night for maybe the first three to four weeks. Making sure that you shut down your electronics and even move them outside of your bedroom is another way. Seven to eight hours of sleep is going to be something that is going to be so helpful to you by increasing your productivity, increasing your cognitive skills, and your decision-making skills. When all of those are totally in alignment, how can you not achieve the goals that you set for yourself?
Those are the three things that I have for you today, and that’s going to help you with achieving any goals you set in your life, including your health and wellness.
So I want to here from YOU! What’s the ONE thing you can do this week to up your health and wellness game? Is it getting more sleep? Walking for exercise? Practicing yoga? Tell me in the comments below.
Until next week,
KEEP ON SHINING!