A lot of women I work with often come to me saying “I just need to have more willpower, and then I’ll be able to lose the weight and keep it off…”
But let’s be real here: If any, and all of us, had more willpower in our bones, the (Western) world would be a healthier place. The truth of the matter is willpower isn’t the answer.
What exactly IS “Willpower” anyway? According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of willpower is:
• Willpower: noun will·pow·er— The ability to control yourself: Strong determination that allows you to do something difficult (such as lose weight or stop smoking)
Interesting, right? Even Merriam-Webster thinks dieting and losing weight is “difficult”. As matter of fact, just about every dictionary I referenced for the definition had an example relating dieting as the difficult task requiring willpower. Hmm….
The way I see it, and I’ve been doing this work for close to 25 years, willpower (and the lack thereof) is NOT the fix.
Here’s why: Willpower can be temporary and very, very fleeting.
One of the main reasons willpower doesn’t work, especially with dieting & weight loss, is because it’s temporary, especially on the “energetic” level. It’s just too “on-the-surface” when it comes to a strategy for habit change.
Think about it: Have you ever started a diet with a strong will and desire, only to end up right back where you started? It’s a vicious cycle, not only on your body, but on your mind, too!
So what’s the answer? Is there a “Willie Wonka Golden Ticket” for lasting weight loss and overall health & happiness? YES! And here it is:
Now I know this may sound a little “hokey”, but stay with me, okay? Let me give you a little “Food for Thought”…
When you think about all the successful people in the world, whether it’s Oprah Winfrey, Richard Branson, or even the late Steve Jobs, have you ever heard them attribute any of their success to having “willpower”? Probably not. And that’s because achieving success in any area of your life takes more than that.
So here’s a little “mindset mastery tip” for you today. Instead of thinking that you need to have more willpower, what would happen if you started literally seeing yourself at your healthiest in your mind’s eye (imagination!). Not only seeing it, but feeling it (this is even more powerful than seeing it). Shift your thinking from “Ugh, I’m so tired!” to “What can I nourish my body with to give myself more energy today?” “How can I add a little more movement in my body today?”
It’s time to “Think. Feel. Do.”, instead of relying solely on willpower.
So tell me, Love, in the comments below, how can you start to shift your mindset using the “Think. Feel. Do” method? How can you start to think about yourself in a more positive way? What does it feel like? What action will you take to make it happen?
You CAN do this!